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Dear Younger Me

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Dear Younger Me,

Slow down child. Everything will be ok. Take one step back, and enjoy the moment every, single, day.

Listen to your daddy… like he always said, ” Slow down kid, and stop thinking about what is ahead”.

To the people who piss you off, the boys that break your heart, and the girls that stab you in the back, understand that everyone is fighting their own demons, and the world is not out to victimize you. Look to your family on learning who to trust. They have your back kid, believe it or not.

Young me, you are so strong. Don’t ever loose sight of what makes you you. This world is going to challenge you. Give em’ hell right back. Don’t back down from what you believe is right.

Never. Stop. Trying. You got a lot of grit kid. Never give up, even when you feel like you should.

Listen to your heart. It will take you where you want to go.

If there is one thing I wished I would have done, it is travel more and be less serious. The world tells you you need to stay focused all the time. This isn’t the case. If you are working hard and you want a break, take one. Don’t let anyone tell you you don’t deserve it.

But young one, please know, that time is of the essence. It is one of the only things that ” take backsies” does not apply to. Know what is important in your life, and never stray from it. Not for money, not for fame, not for advancement. There is a balance in this world that people tend to leave behind once the real world starts calling them home. Know your inner child never has to grow up, your views do not have to be changed because someone said so, and the beautiful, precious balance that is so intricate to our human self is the TRUE road to happiness

So buckle in, enjoy the ride, and be you for the rest of your life.

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The Feeling of Wanting Greatness

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In my time spent at college, I heard continuously how the world was in my hand. Every time I turned around I had professors telling me I would achieve greatness. I never believed them. All I understood about myself at the time was that I did not understand the way the world worked and why everyone was so set on doing life in a certain way. The insecurities we have as individuals and the the demands life  places on us at times can be daunting. But there were two things I knew that made it better…. not surrounding myself with negativity and taking the path less traveled. I felt that by doing this, I was ” doing” life better than anyone else because I was focused and I turned my head every time a distraction arose…. even the good ones.

Upon graduating, I was so excited to move forward. I wanted to show the world what I offered and how I could help make it a better place. I took a job at a small business as a content coordinator. My mind raced. There were SO many things I wanted to do. I was hungry for success and money. I came up with several ideas that I could pursue!

Then it hit me.

I cannot be great at everything and I cannot have it all. In life, there are certain elements that make up a person. I like to divide them like so:

  • 50% Family
  • 20% Job and Money
  • 20% Religion
  • 10% Fitness

Some people would argue me on the emphasis on family. ” I hate my family”. ” My family hates me”. Stop it. They are your blood. It is better to make amends and deal with the differences than to live your life with regret, angst, and aggression. That’s allowing negativity to take over. Not to mention you cannot fight this world alone and there is NO ONE who will stand behind you like family in a time of need. If you don’t believe me, I hope you learn that lesson real soon. I digress, you have to tend to each element to be ” happy ” as a person. If you put 60% into work, your fitness portion will decrease and the next thing you know your buying clothes 3 sizes bigger and your diabetic….. Your not happy….. but might have gotten a pay raise.

This realization I had….. It has helped me hone my goal to find what I am truly suppose to be great at. If I did not love my fiance more than the world and want to be the best mom ever, I probably would have taken my dream job at Disney World. Because Family is 50% of my happiness, I didn’t take that job. Now I am happily employed doing something I love, with a good salary, and I am on my way to finding MY Greatness and I am closer than I was when I graduated. Most importantly, I didn’t compensate my family percentage for my job percentage. It paid off in the end. Everything happens for a reason and every choice we make is another step we take in discovering something about ourselves. Enjoy it. Be persistent. Most importantly, never forget what the composition is for achieving happiness. Your hunger for greatness will yield when you understand what really makes you happy.

To the Wonderful Kids Who Graduated College

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Congratulations. You did it.

Finally. The moment you have been waiting for… or dreading, has come. You have officially completed 4 years of college. It is crazy how fast it flew by! Hopefully you are on the road to success and have a some- what plan of what your next adventure is. But I must warn you, there is this thing called, college rigamortis. What might this be? Allow me to explain. After the hype of graduating and entering the real world fades away, you start to miss the place you thought you might not ever leave. You begin to realize how MUCH your life is changing and you start to appreciate how easy your life was, despite how hard it could be when you had 3 papers and a test to study for in one night. There were no bills in college, and if there were, you  probably split them with the 4 other people you lived with. You aren’t constantly surrounded with people your age, and if you are, you probably need to consider the fact that you are growing up and it is starting to become NOT socially acceptable to live in a 2 bedroom apartment with 7 other guys who come home, get drunk, and do it all over again the next day. A lot of recent college grads move back home, and let me tell you, the past 4 years of your life will seem like a dream if you do that. You will find yourself feeling like you never left and things should be the same, but they are not.

My advice?

Set goals and whatever you do, DO NOT MOVE BACK. People who try to move back to their college home town never succeed. They are old burn outs. I know you remember seeing those 40 something year old men at your favorite bar and thinking, ” Geez, those guys are creepy”. Please, spare yourself from being THAT guy. Make new friends and stay in touch with your old ones. Make  plans to go on vacation and make visits to each other’s new homes. Keep building memories outside of college, it eases the transition. Just because you work 40 hours a week does not mean you have to stop being the crazy you that was unleashed at school. You just need to master being you and working… and eventually having a family if your into that. Don’t let work define you! It is really easy to let your job define you instead of your job being something that you do.

Know that you cannot relive the past, but you can change the future. A lot of people say that college is the best time of your life, and they are kinda right. You experience a lot in your time spent there. But, only enjoying 4 years of your life seems kinda lame and not worth living for. So roll with the punches, enjoy EVERYTHING, and make it exciting. Remember how you felt in school and apply that feeling and excitement to life. Many people loose sight of fun after a couple years out of school….. DONT BE THAT GUY!

College rigamortis is real, but don’t be afraid, just roll with it.

Why no university degree is “useless”

Why no university degree is “useless”.

Inspiration for the Post Grad Athlete: 3 Reasons the World Needs Us

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There it is. The moment you have been dreading. You just played the last game of the sport that has literally consumed your life. If you are an athlete, you are aware that is  arguably the feeling you have been dreading for quite some time. Not to mention, you are about to graduate college, you have no idea what lies ahead, and you have no idea what the meaning of life is now that a sport does not consume your life. It can be depressing. But, there is hope. In the time I have spent outside of college, I have realized that post- graduate college athletes have a lot to offer the world.

1.) We have ALOT of energy.

People do not realize how much energy a person is required to have to practice 6 hours a day, travel all the time, keep up grades, and occasionally be social. Don’t forget that the majority of college athletes also have other hobbies they like to dabble in too. It takes a lot of perseverance, hard-work and energy to maintain high performance across the board for our day to day activities. Why does this matter? It translates to the work place and life after college! Being able to multitask and maintain a high rate of energy throughout the day is a gift. You don’t realize it because you have been surrounded by individuals whose grind was just as hard as yours. But in the real world, people don’t understand your energy, need to succeed or why you have a schedule.

2.) You are Motivation to Others to be Fit

In college, you worked out because it was a requirement. On some days, you were probably exhausted and found ways just to ” get by” by doing bare minimums. After you graduate, there is no one out there telling you to get fit or stay in shape. Naturally, former athletes usually catch on and force themselves to go hard and always find time to work out… its just what they do and who they are. THIS IS NOT NORMAL. People who didn’t experience the vigor of college athletics can go months, even years without walking an extra mile a day. Your motivation to treat your body well will motivate others to do the same.

3.)  You are a Good Co-worker

Literally your entire life, you have been shouting chants and running extra sprints for the teammate who showed up 3 minutes late. Its safe to say  you pretty much have the whole ” team” concept down at this point. This is awesome for your new working environment and your employer will love this attitude. Many people do not get to experience what it is like to be on a team. When you enter your future workplace and you show some of that good ol, ” go team go” spirit people will love you. This kind of vibe is extremely positive, and you would be surprised how many people never have been exposed to an attitude like yours. It also means you can hang in there like a champ when something goes wrong in the office too.

Just remember, think of life as a book. You are closing a chapter and beginning to write a new one! Just don’t forget to carry the plot line over when you start writing!

25+ apps to make your everyday life easier

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Favorite_appsAt our small, fast-moving nonprofit company, everyone does a couple of jobs — and productivity apps help us manage roles that shift between coding, writing/designing and running a full-scale conference twice a year. We asked the TED staff what apps they can’t live without. And beyond the classics—Instagram, Google Maps, Spotify, Uber, Seamless—we found some great apps that might help you too. (A star denotes that the app is free, or at least has a free version.)

 

For random life stuff…

Dark Sky
A weather app with startling accuracy, its interface tells you things like: “Light rain starting in 22 minutes.” It also shows you beautiful weather maps that let you play local-news weather expert. “It’s like a wizard,” says our CTO, Gavin Hall. “If this app were available in the 1600s, it would have been burned at the stake for witchcraft.”

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5 Things You Should Know Before You Go to College

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5 Things They Don’t Tell You After Graduating High school

1.)  Your Friends Now Will Not Be Your Friends in 4 Years.

So right in the heat of the drunkin’ moment at prom, your friends look at you and say, ” Things are never going to change! We will always be best friends”! Or your significant other claims that you will be together forever. Well, that is all wonderful, but…. it more than likely is not true. Yes, there are some anomalies who are friends 50 years down the road or the couple that does eventually get married. However, according to statistics from the Harris Interactive survey from 2006, only 14% of ALL marriages are a result school affiliated relationships. Yes, this includes college relationships too. Do the math, its not in your favor and isn’t something worth counting on. Your friends will also change because YOU will evolve in college. You may not think it now, but it is almost a certainty that you will not be the same person in 4 years.

2.) Do yourself a favor and explore career paths now.

In all the hype and hubbub of your senior year, you are probably not thinking about what you want to do for the rest of your life. Hecht, you are probably just happy knowing you passed your AP English exam with a 3. I know setting a career path might not have even crossed your mind, but you will thank yourself later if you start early. There are so many jobs in the world and you will be faced with lots of choices about how you want to shape your life. Many people think that what you major in in college doesn’t matter, but if you attend college for a computer science degree with a minor in history, then all of a sudden you want to be a doctor, you will seriously hate yourself by the time you graduate. Get out there while you can and shadow people at their jobs! Your parents have friends who have real- life jobs… shadow them… or at the very least talk to them about their profession.

3.) You Only Live Once… cliche and outdated, yes, but totally true.

Highschool is the time to let your hair down. You are a kid and your not really responsible for very much. Your biggest problem is not having enough money to go to a movie or worrying about how your getting to a football game to see whoever it is your crushing on at the time ( Most cases, not all). The summer after you graduate high school going into college will be one of the most amazing and emotional summers of your life… embrace it and live it up. The biggest misconception in college is that what you do while your getting your degree does not matter. THIS IS A LIE! If you are doing college right, you shouldn’t be sleeping… and no that is not because you are out late at a frat party. It should be because you are working a job to have some money in your checking account, interning at company so you can slap something nice on your resume, studying, and when you have the time, seeing your friends and significant others. Once again, many people will not tell you this, but if you want to feel some what accomplished after you graduate college, you should take my advice. Make those silly late night memories in high school, grow up in college.

4.) Be YOU.

Make sure your always doing things for yourself, not because someone else wanted you to. This applies to the jobs you take all the way down to eating more because your roommate wants taco bell at 3a.m and they need you to eat with them so they don’t feel guilty.

5.) The Freshman 15 is Real.

When your in high school, your meals are pretty controlled. You eat breakfast at your house, lunch in the cafeteria, and whatever your parents or friends parents cook for dinner. In college, your days get longer, you stop exercising, you eat more because the cafeteria is open ALL THE TIME and has EVERY FOOD EVER IMAGINED! Therefore, workout, have some freaking control over your eating habits, and don’t stress eat. Its overall better for your health and you won’t feel awful about yourself.

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